Anonymous: i have discovered recently that my boyfriend had a few porn movies he had downloaded on his computer. i got freaked out by it and casually brought up "how often do you look at porn." he said it had been weeks and why would he "because he has me," then said he didn't want to talk about it and felt awkward. i still have moments of feeling uncomfortable with it, but i know everyone, including me, looks at it. how do i deal with these feelings and not feel so weird about him viewing porn?First off, you already gave yourself reasons to not be put off by it. You watch porn, and so does he. It is just going to happen. It gets stupid, and mildly offensive to him if he knows you do watch porn, and you still get mad at him for doing it.
That being said, try asking him if you want to watch porn together. It could end up being sexy, and you can learn what he is into that he may not have mentioned. And it goes the other way too. Try it out!
-Jones